One of the issues we will be looking at in Of Mice and Men is that of social agression. Social agression is defined as actions and behaviors directed at damaging another’s self-esteem, social status, or both. Social Aggression can take the form of facial expressions (including the rolling of eyes and other looks of disgust), gossip and the spreading of rumors, bullying, verbal and/or non-verbal exclusion, or the manipulation of friendships and other relationships.
Based on this definition, please answer at least 3 of the following in your blog:
a. What acts of social aggression have you seen in your school and community?
b. What role did the school or community environment play in those acts of aggression? What role did economic factors play? What role did social pressure play? Were there other factors that somehow impacted the situation?
c. List three major causes of social aggression in your life. Are any of these causes similar to the causes of social aggression in Of Mice & Men?
d. What are some ways people attempt to establish dominance and authority over you in your everyday life?
e. Has anyone ever taken out their anger with something else out on you? Write a letter to someone who has done this to you. Explain how his or her actions made you feel. Suggest some other ways this person might deal with his or her anger.
f. Have you ever taken your anger out on someone who is not responsible for it? Write a letter to someone you have done this to. Explain why you might have done this.
g. What are some alternatives to social aggression? Are there ways to address and respond to the causes of social aggression without attempting to damage someone else’s self-esteem or social status?
50 comments:
A.Acts of social aggression I have seen at school is people calling each other names. For no reason it seems like people feel the need to put others down.D. Some ways people try to attempt to establish dominance over me is to hang things above my head. They will take what ever they can and pretty much say I have it you don't. It really does not bother me and I don't let it get to me. E. My sister has major anger problems in my opinion. She always took everything that was her fault or some other thing and taken it out on me and my parents. If I were to write a letter I would start "why do you always need to keep me down and use me as a punching bag? You really need to grow up and learn how to deal with things me and everyone else is getting sick of this." She could easily deal with her anger in a positive way. Such as running or working out or just listening to music. It just gets really annoying with her being a bitch all the time.
kevin anderson
6th hour
A. Lakeland Highschool. Everyone one is so excited to go to highschool but once they get their, some say they love it. Others hate it, so much drama going around, this school to me is one big hate school. I see so much backstabbing, anyways the acts i see are when girls act they are friends they lie to each other and hookup with each others boyfriends behind backs. and when they find out, this can be badd.. it leads to fights or other things ect ect..
e.dear trevor, so lately your always angry with something, if its something thats goin on at home or if school made you mad you take it out me. you bring up random stuff that made you mad, like if i didnt hang out with you like a month ago youd bring it up so ud have a reason to yell at me. this makes me feel like i cant help you with your problems like you dont like my company and it really hurts my feelings. i really want you to be happy. I want you to know that i dont like it when you blame stuff on me. but if you need help, im always going to be here.
f. dearr daddyyy! so last week when you picked me up from school i was on the verge of crying and you were like singing a song you made up and it was really dumb, ha but i love you... and you kept bugging me and i told you what was wrong and you didnt really say anything. but i was upset so you asked to borrow money that i just made at my job and that made me mad so i yelled at you and im sorry. i yelled because i was sad and i wanted to be alone, and on top of that you wanted money, i shuld of just gave it to you, im sorry. love yaa.
steffiee
Mr. Kay,
A.In school I have seen a lot of everything dealing with social aggression. Obviously, there is tons of gossip, bullying and things that make people a jerk, but there is also a whole lot more. I think that most people in our school just wants to hang out with people exactly like them. They want to talk to other criminals, other nerds, other jocks. Outside of that, there is tons of exclusion. People might not want to be with you if you want do something bad or against the law or someone wont talk to you because of your general interests. This is exactly how high school is and always will be.
B. I think that something in school or community can directly cause social aggression. Maybe something bad happens at school on int the community to you, you could end up blaming that on a friend. Its not fair to that friend, but you still might do it. Also, in order to accomplish something, you might end up manipulating someone to get that one thing done. It is a real jerk move, but again, it still happens.
G. There is simply tons of ways of getting an alternative to social aggression. The simplest way is to channel it into something constructive. Instead of making fun of someone, admire them. Acknowledge the fact they are there and that they are people to. One thing is to never take your problems out on another, but just work on that problem. No need to worry. Overall, you should be a jerk.
Really, social aggression is something that obviously needs to be done away with.It's stupid.
Luke LaFountain
5th Hour
The number one act of social aggression I have seen in school is bullying. I have seen this starting in elementary school and continuing onto high school. From experience it is a horrible thing to go through. The same group of people pick on you for the same thing day after day just for the purpose of trying to impress someone. You hear the name calling during lunch or in class and it makes me sad and angry. Also, I have seen an act of social aggression at the grocery store. Haven't you heard a sigh or seen the rolling of the eyes when a grocery clerk is not going as fast as you think they should be. My parents and sister are always trying to dominate life. With being the youngest everybody in my house has a say in how and when I do something. Everything is on their time table from when I start my homework and what time I go to bed. My mom is probably the #1 person I take my anger out on. If I were to write a letter to her it would say, "I know sometimes I take my anger out on you when I shouldn't. My only explaination is that you are an easy target. You are always there for me and I need to find other ways to vent my anger instead of taking it out on the one person who always has my back." There are more positive ways to handle your aggression such as: listening to music, removing yourself from the situation, think of the person you might be hurting.
In my school and community I have seen all these forms of social aggression. In the school, I have heard and have been called names. Three major causes of social aggression in my life are me being shy, staying out of the crowd, and being a loner. I'm not someone who likes to be in a huge group of people. I'd rather just sit by myself or with 3 or 4 of my friends. People try to establish dominance over me by taking advantage of the fact that I don't like to fight...at all. I'm one of those people who will try to avoid a fight asbest as I can. My sister has always taken out her anger on me or my family. If I wrote a letter to her it would say "You need to take control of your feelings and stop taking your anger out on us. Our lives are already burdened enough without you adding more to them." Forme I rarely take my anger out on someone else unless they catch me at an extremely bad time where just the smallest thing could set me off. Some alternatives to social aggression could be to just keep your mean opinions to yourself because opinions are like buttholes, everybodies got one. Also, if you're mad at something, try to control your anger and wait until you're by yourself or something and let off some steam.
James Richardson
5th hour
A. There are so much social aggression in our school. People will start rumors about people all the time just for them to look better. Or mainly girls will roll their eyes at people if they don't like them. Also I have seen people be completely two-faced. They will say one thing to a person but then turn the corner and say something mean about that person.
C. Some causes of social aggression in my life could be because someone is jealous of someone else and they gossip or spread rumors about someone. Another cause of social aggression is that people might judge others before they even know them and bully them etc. And a 3rd cause could be because of a rumor, someone might hear that another person said something when in reality it was just a lie.
F. I am sorry that I took my anger out on you when in reality you had nothing to do with it. I was just angry and I should have talked to the person who I was angry and not get angry at you.
From, Hannah
Hannah Aittama
5th Hour
a. In school i have seen many social aggressions. Bullying is a pretty big part of highschool. Not so much this year, but in the past years i always heard about differnt fights going on. Another one is rumors. Everywhere i go, i always hear about someones drama and gossiping between people.
c. In my life i think rumors is a big one. Although i dont always start the rumors, i tend to spread them to other people at times. Another one is the rolling of the eyes. When i get mad at my sister or friends i always roll my eyes, i think its kind of a habit. Lastly if im upset or in a bad mood, i always give people the cold shoulder, which isnt the best way to take out my anger, but whatever.
g. There is definelty other ways to take out your anger on someone without involving social aggression. One could be to talk it out with that certain person that you have problems with. Another way is to break bad habits like rolling your eyes at someone or spreading or starting rumors about someone that could damage other peroples self- esteem.
Clare Pathe
A. Some acts of social aggression at school that I have seen is really bad name calling. Also,I hear rumors that go around that hurt people.
F. Dear, Bridget, I am sorry for taking my anger out on you. The reason probably is because I am in a bad mood some days. So when I am in a bad mood and you start getting annoying I start to get mad.
E. Dear, Dad, I just want to tell you that when you took your anger out on me I didn't like it. I couldn't stand getting yelled at constantly. I hope you have a better temper then before.
Katherine Walsh
6th hour
A. The acts of Social Aggression that I see around our school and community are bullying, peer pressure mean looks and many other things. People are always sarcastic with one another and they really don't seem like they want to be around each other. Most people are too concerned with technology. This is another form of social aggression. It's easy to make fun of someone while you are behind a phone. Another issue is people thinking they are superior over other people just because they may be older.
B. The role that the community plays in this issue is that they house the people who are socially aggressive. However most people in society are pretty cool about the whole situation, but there are akways those select few who have to ruin it for everybody. Economic issues play a huge part because usually the people who are economically unstable are the bad seeds. Peer pressure also plays a large role because it is experienced everyday in the sense that you always have people cowering down to others. I think there were many other factors that are experienced within a society such as prejudice. Some people just have a hatred because they were brought up that way. Another issue which relates to that is stereotyping. People may often hold people to a standard that may not be true.
D. Some ways people try to establish dominance over me are they talk down to me or make me feel bad. Another way is they shoot down anything I say and criticize me for every little thing I do. It's like they don't even care how I feel. Another issue is them talking behind my back and saying rude things about me. I hear about it and I try to let it go because if they do that, then they really aren't people I want to be around.
William Schwartz
6th hr
A. What acts of social aggression have you seen in your school and community?
I have seen hundreds of these in school. For instance if a teachers giving out a lot of home work kids may role there eyes or talk shit behind there back. I have seen students fight by saying mean names and spreading rumors.
D. What are some ways people attempt to establish dominance and authority over you in your everyday life?
Some ways this may happen is by age. Adults may use this for domonance over the younger. You have no power over them because of that.
G. What are some alternatives to social aggression? Are there ways to address and respond to the causes of social aggression without attempting to damage someone else’s self-esteem or social status?
You can avoid the situation and just forget about it. If you can't avoid it, just let it slide without harm to anyone. I guess its never 100% bullet proof but it will help some situations.
A. There's a lot of social aggression at our school. Friends will go behind each others back. For example Girls will you and hook up with there best friends boyfriend. or go and talk crap about someone. And then act like their best friend to their face.
D. I think that something in school or community can directly cause social aggression. For example something might happen to you and you'd go and blame it on someone else. Or talk someone into doing something that you want done.
E. Dear .... whenever you get into a fight with your family or someone else, you always seem to take it out on me. By yelling at me and starting fights. And i don't think its really fair. And it brings me down. You could always just talk to me about it, and tell me whats going on instead of making me think i did something wrong.
A. In our school soical agression occurs everyday is bullying people by calling names, making fun of how they look, and the most of all we spread rumors that probably are not true. Most of the time we don't do anything to stop it becaase we dont want to look stupid. We all need to step up and be the change.
C. Some of the major cause of Social Agression are jealousy of another human being, another could be the fact of rumors about you that you do not like, and finnaly perceptions of another human being that are not right might take place. Many people judge others when they don't know them. You should really choose to get to know someone before you judge.
G. Their are many alternatives to social agression such as not listetening to rumors and just tuning them out, or you can not take out youre anger on fellow students or people. Also try to ignore bad situations that will just hurt your situation. You can not let others hurt you. If another person trys to make fun of you or how they act just choose to tune them out.
Jordan Blanzy
6th hr
Mr. Kay,
A. Some of the acts of social aggression in our school is talking bad about people behind there back. No offence, but seriously, if you have something to say dont go and talk bad behind there back. Go up and tell them! If you were the one talking bad about someone else behind there back, then your just plan stupid. Be a man and tell them yourself, well you shouldn't be saying anything bad about others in the first place. But if you do have something to say, then tell that person. Another social aggression in our school and community is calling people names. First of all there is no reason to call people names, if you have a problem with them then work it out. Calling names is really not necessary. Be the better person and deal with it in a mature way (this includes swearing).
C. Three major causes of social aggression are, first, betrayal. I believe that this is the most common starter. Second, I believe that rejection is all so a very common starter for social aggression. And lastly, third, I think that rumors are a very big starter for social aggression, it can really tick someone off to the point where they lose it.
E. Dear ------,
Look, I'm sorry for what happened in the past. You and ---- were really close, and I get that, but I thought you didn't want anything to do with ---- anymore. I asked
---- to the movies because they had quite a bit on there mind, I wanted to give them a chance to let it all out. I knew they wern't going to go, I just wanted to be nice and ask. I didn't know that you would take all of your anger out on me. I get that your mad about ----, but ------, I wasn't quite understanding how you were feeling. You don't really know how horrible I felt when you told me that stuff about your sister. I have always liked you ------, I'm sure you won't believe that, but its the truth, I had no intention of hurting you. I'm sorry, I'm sorry that I ruined your relationship with ----, I'm sorry I ever met ----! But to be honest, ---- is the sweetest person ive ever met. You can yell at me all you want, ive learned to channel my anger. I'm not going to fight with you because I know that you have every right to be mad. Just understand that this hurt me too, it may not look like it but I miss having you to talk to. I hope this turns out the best for you. Sincerily, Danielle.
Danielle Turner
a. What acts of social aggression have you seen in your school and community?
b. What role did the school or community environment play in those acts of aggression? What role did economic factors play? What role did social pressure play? Were there other factors that somehow impacted the situation?
c. List three major causes of social aggression in your life. Are any of these causes similar to the causes of social aggression in Of Mice & Men?
d. What are some ways people attempt to establish dominance and authority over you in your everyday life?
e. Has anyone ever taken out their anger with something else out on you? Write a letter to someone who has done this to you. Explain how his or her actions made you feel. Suggest some other ways this person might deal with his or her anger.
f. Have you ever taken your anger out on someone who is not responsible for it? Write a letter to someone you have done this to. Explain why you might have done this.
g. What are some alternatives to social aggression? Are there ways to address and respond to the causes of social aggression without attempting to damage someone else’s self-esteem or social status?
Mr. Kay,
a. Some examples of social aggression that I have seen is people calling people names. I dont think that it is a problem unless it is trying to hurt the person deliberately. Some joking comments are okay as long as you and that person are friends.
f. Dear mom,
I know that I was wrong to take my anger out on you. Things at school have been really stressful and I was wrong to yell at you for it.
g. Yes, there are alternates. I know that when I get angry I either like to yell really loud, or go running. Playing baseball really melows me out, along with lifting weights.
A.) In our school, I have seen pretty much every act of aggression there is. Gossip is a major one. Rumors seem to spread too easily now. I've also seen things like bullying and acts of aggression like pushing and shoving.
D.) I've haven't been encountered with social aggression very much but I have ben a couple of times. Probably the most common thing someone says to establish dominance is that I'm short. It doesn't really effect me all that much because I don't let it.
G.) There are plenty of alternatives to social aggression. One of the most common ones is to keep busy or do something constructive like Luke said. This helps to replace the anger by releasing it in a non-violent way. When someone says something mean to you or as an act of social aggression, your first feeling is anger. You want to say something mean back. Although this might make you feel better, it is not the right thing to do. Give the person a compliment. 'Kill them with kindness' as they say. once the person realizes it doesn't bother you, they will stop bothering you.
Cody Kabisa
5th hour
A.) At our highschool many people have social aggression. It may be as simple as calling them names or even more exreme and hitting them or something. Unfortunately there are so many other things that go on in our school that are social aggression with so many different people.
F.) Dear mom,
Sorry that the other day i was really mad and had an attitude towards you even though you didn't do anything. I just got mad at school and cariied it over to our house and out on you. I am a big jerk for doing that i am really sorry. Hope you forgive me soon. Ty.
G.) There are a lot of different alternatives it just depends on who you are. You could like sports and start throwing a ball really hard or punching somthing with a passion. That is what i like to do and sometimes i just listen to music or even running or something where you are alone but not just sitting there helps. Last they could be as simple as writing a poem but there are many other ways to fix it.
Ty Bouwens, 6th hour
mr.Kay,
In my school i have seen many acts of social aggression. Examples being bullying, rumors, and basically everything you listed in the defintion. Alot of people are excluted by others for stupid things like apperence. Many people attempt to control others lives. In my life people try to control me by telling me who i can hang out with or what im going to do. Example, i was talking to one of my friends one time and when i walked away my other friend came up to me and was like why are you talking to her. I was like because she's my friend. Then she was like well i dont like her. so, in other words people try to control you just because they don't like someone they think you shouldnt either. My mom usually takes her anger out on me, it really bugs me. example, Today my mom got made at my brother and because she was yelling at him when she started talking to me she was yelling at me for what he did. i was like mom dont yell at me for what he did, i didnt make you mad, i dont understand why youre yelling. And like most parents reply, she said, " I"M NOT YELLING." and in my head im like ok, yeah, youre not yelling. So, if i was to write her a letter i would say... Dear mom, please dont take your anger out on me. It's getting redickulous. If you get that made maybe you should just walk away, not just yell at whomever seems to cross you're path.
Brittney Cooper
6th hour
A. Some acts of aggression i have been seeing at school alot this past cardmarking, was a lot of fights have been occuring lately and they all have ended baly. People need te learn to just get along with eachother or just not mingly with those that you do not like.
D. Some ways people attept to establish dominance and authority over me in my everyday life, is People tend to look donw upon me and try and make fun of me, it doesn't bother me i just toon them out and let it go in one ear and out another. If you don't give them a reaction then they will have nothing to thrive on.
G. Some alternatives to social aggression are holding back for a few seconds and taking a few deep breaths to help yoursefl cool down. Some ways of trying to stop socail agresssion is to talk thing out with the person who is doing something that could damage someone seff-esteam. Ask them whats bothering them and just to avoid the situation until there problems are resovled.
John McLean
6th hour
P.S. Mr. kay i have completed all of my blogs form the friday when Mr. hand was here all through lats week. Please look back on them so i can get the credit.
d. What are some ways people attempt to establish dominance and authority over you in your everyday life?
I think many people try to claim dominance over people because of competition. Parents, peers, relatives, teacher, at least one point in everyones life they try to claim dominance over others to feel successful. some cases are more obvious while others are a little more secretive. Obvious cases are like my parents, there claiming dominance over me by trying to teach me the right morals or values, because if i succeed they succeed. A more hidden example is wanting to get better grades than a friend. You can still be happy for them if they score higher but you still feel a little bitter toward it.
e. Has anyone ever taken out their anger with something else out on you? Write a letter to someone who has done this to you. Explain how his or her actions made you feel. Suggest some other ways this person might deal with his or her anger.
Dear.
I know that you have been very stressed lately but I'm not your focus for emotion. I think that instead of blaming or become angry with me, you need a healthier outlet for emotion. I can understand that yelling can help release some of your anger, but i don't think it should be directed at someone. if you need to yell, yell, just not at me.
f. Have you ever taken your anger out on someone who is not responsible for it? Write a letter to someone you have done this to. Explain why you might have done this.
Dear.
I'm sorry for being such a bitch. I've just been in a weird mood lately and i know thats no excuse. I'm sorry i acted that way and ill try my best not to let it happen again. i hope that you can forgive me.
Economically, anyone who read "Into The Jungle" has noticed all the horrid crap one might go though for food on the table(fingers getting eaten by acid, frostbite, dysentery ect. ect). Of course this would lead to aggression and a union. Or even a change in government as communism. How we communicate as a community is essential for how we grow and learn.
As for D, there is no attempt. It already has happened! My Mom and Dad has already established authority over my life. However that's a given, they control my standard of living. And then there is you Mr Kay, I don't really like talking out in class. Well there are other reasons too, *COUGH-COUGH* others commenting on my commentation*. But you have a non-spoken rule of "Anything said can and probably used against you" and "Anything that can be implied can/will be used against you". I know you don't really MEAN anything, you are just having some fun. It's how you relate to your classes.
commentation-New word, just made it up, "To give a opinion of a subject."
There are many alternatives to aggression, avoidance, compromising, listening to your shoulder angle instead of telling him/her to go fly into a fan ect. ect. . But if you go into facial expressions, it's almost impossible. These are split-second opinions that are expressed as soon as the brain can process them. As for all the non-instinctive choices such as gossip and the spreading of rumors, bullying, verbal and/or non-verbal exclusion, or the manipulation of friendships and other relationships, I cannot understand. When I talk about someone, it feels like I lost perspective. Like I'm looking down on a person. I don't like that, unless its deserved (crimes and such). Perhaps others like looking down on others, a sense of superiority amongst themselves. Human nature?
Derek Guckian
5th hour
A. There are so many social aggression in Lakeland High School. People will be two-faced very often. Pretending to be a person's friend and then talk about them behind their back. Also, some people make fun of others, such as bullying.
C. Three major causes of social aggression in my life is frustration, betrayal, and problems at home. They all affect the attitude a person is in.
G. An alternates to the social aggression are exercing. When you exercise, you blow of steam and make yourself feel better. Also, talking about it with someone also helps blow off the steam.
Kristen Pauly
6th hr.
1. Some acts of social aggression in your school.
I think that some acts of social agression in our school are bullying and discluding people. I think that bullying is something that goes on a lot, as we see it almost every day. Excluding people is also a social injustice. I think that there are many kids who are left our because theyre not cool enough, or they dont do or wear cool things.
2. What are some ways people establish dominance in your life.
I think that in my life people establish dominance by physicall manner, and intimidation. I think that some people establish dominance by that little shoulder check in the hallway, or pushing someone out of the way. Next, some people do things to get inside others skin. I think that this is a factor in all athletics, which are a big part of my life. One person or one team is trying to always look more raw than the other and try to intimidate them.
3. What are 3 causes of social agression in life. Are any of these similar to those in Mice and Men.
I think that three causes for agression in my life are jealousy, trying to be superior, and insecurity. I think that someone always wants something, wants to be something, or has something wrong with them that they want to be better. In attempt to do this, some type of social agression is caused.
A. i see social agression at school. i always hear gossip about people and somtimes verbal exclusion. also on tv you see how people manipulate relationships.
C. one major cause of social aggression is misunderstandings. sometimes people think others hate them and then they act mean towards them when actually this person may have nothing against them. also people say things about people thinking they will never find out. another cause would be segregation of people and diversity among them.
D. some ways people try to establish dominance and authority over me by trying to put me down or make me feel bad about something.
A. In my school and community I have seen many different acts of social agreesion. One of them is bullying. So many people are concerned with protecting their status that they have to put someone else down in order to feel superior of themselves. Another way I see social agression is when people are jealous of each other. Jealousy can come CEO. Many things including someone have material things, or even relationships that went wrong. In this instance too, it is someone putting someone else down to feel better of themselves.
B. I think when it comes to social agression the situations are created by someone trying to gain status and improve the way people percieve them. Therefore the school atmosphere make people give in to peer pressure. I truly believe that's the only reason people put down others. Most of the time it is weak people or people who are not economically incluned.
G. Some alternatives to social agression may include finding an activity that relieves stress. Or you can find a way to just ignore the things said when you get made fun of. I believe theat if you have some self control there are ways to deal with these things without resorting to social aggression. However each person has to fin out what works best for them.
A. I have seen many things of social aggression. I see people talking about other people badly behind their backs. Ive see people yell at each other when it wasn't necessary. Other people spread rumors that aren't true just to get back at someone for doing something to them. D. Personally I don't let anyone under the age of 20 tell me what to do. None of the people my age try to establish dominance over me. I really only listen to people who I respect or are made to respect like cops. I respect my parents, most of my teachers, friends, and family. When I was in elementary school I was really small, so many of the bigger students tried to control me and tell me what to do. (Look at me now =D. C. The three major causes of social aggression: The first I think would have to start out by the way you are raised. If you are raised to be negative or mean to someone in a certain situation then you will act like that in the future. The second one would be stress. Many of us have tons of things going on all the time and we can sometimes break under that pressure. Third would have to be " Monkey see Monkey do." When people see others acting on social aggression to often in their lives they will start to be negative too.
~Big Red
6th Hour
a. some acts of social agrssion i have seen in my school and teh community are rolling of eyes and gossiping. c. some causes of social agreeion are people not getting along. Or maybe they just dont like eachother at all. g. Some alternatives to social agresion are talking about whats bothering you. You could also like write in a journal to get your feelings out. Yes there are ways to adress and respond to the causes of social agression without damaging their self asteem or social status. You can talk to them one on one and try to help them.
Katlyn Twigg 6th Hour
A. Gang mentality, domestic violence(in small doese), friendship abuse, superiority complexes. In general, people who won't get off their high-horses.
C. If I happen to be aggressive, normally something has happened with friends or family. I also have triggers in my mind that go off when certain words are said. These trigger responses normally do not end well with either party.
It's not that I am a normally aggressive person, but sometimes ager will build up inside me, and it kind of explodes from a single word.
I think the reason for my aggression is lack of dominance in any relationship. I feel like a peon; made to take orders and carry them out with no complaint.
D. People usually use my weaknesses when trying to take advantage of me. Even though people don't know many of said weaknesses, everyone has a common one. THE NEED TO BE ACCEPTED. If in a group session, say, for a poster assignment, I sometimes have two or three lazy people begging me to join their group to do the art depictions. Even though I'm flattered by attention, the cause behind it hurts.
People think I'm a friendless outcast who hates everyone. NOT TRUE. I, in fact, wish I was friends with a few people in each class.
F. I have taken out my anger on a lot of people. Most for no reason at all. Some people just tend to get on my nerves, and the whole lot deserve to hear how angry I am. I can be obnoxiously loud when agitated, and will protest aggressively to any horseplay around me that's annoying.
Moral of the story:
If you ever bug me, I'll let you know with an extremely pissed off face, and a very dark, low remark.
:3
Steffeny Apollo
5th Hour
d.Some ways people show dominance is that people try to act tough. I hate it when some skinny kid thincks that he is tough shit. I hate it the most when guys walk out with there chest pufed out and there arms are stiff. Another way people show dominace is when people try to show that they are better than everyone else, and they have to prove themselves to others and show off in somew sort of form.
F. Dear my sister and mom,
Sorry for taking out my anger out on you when I get mad. I am only tring to make myself feel better when you get cought up in it. It only makes you guys mader so I get madder. I just sometimes have to let out my anger and have to take it out on you.
G. Some of the alternative in dealing with social aggression is to let your anger out on things other than people. You could tryt to punch a pillow or yell and punch soft things. This things are very simple and don't hurt others.
Chris Reid
6th hour
Taylor Dieck
6th hr.
g: Some alternative to social agression are just being calm and not freaking out. When you start to feel over whelmed or like your going to be angry just take a step back and breathe. This way when you start to feel like socail agression is froming you can refrain. a: Some acts of social agression I have seen in my school would be students verbally abusing one another. They do this by calling eachother names and being vicious. d: Many ways people try to dispay dominance and agression over me in every day life is by pushing for power. Examples of this would be teachers thinking they autamatically have dominance over students because of their posistion. While we should respect them, it does not mean they can just assume they have unlimited power.
A. Some acts of social aggression that I have seen throughout Lakeland is when girls are caught up in their own littler words and "hate" each other. Girls start to spread rumors about one another just because she "stole" her guy, or "stabbed" her in the back, or simply because one of your best friends hates her so that means you have to as well. Girls will stop being friends for no reason, then talk crap about each other. It's ridiculous what girls but people in general do to each other now a days.
E. Dear Friend,
You’re one of my friends, taking your anger out on me isn’t going to solve any of your problems. Yes, I’m here for you to talk to, but to get mad at me when the situation doesn’t even involve me is inexcusable. When you were yelling at me you made me feel like it was my fault my friend “hurt” you. I can’t help what his/her decision is. I’m there to support him/her when needed as well as give my opinion when asked. When you get mad at me for something I did not do, it causes me to get mad at others who didn’t do anything, which leaves me feeling very guilty. I believe that if you were to cool off before talking to any of your friends would be a good way of dealing with anger. For example, going for a walk, listening to music, running, working out and maybe even punching a pillow. Those are all natural ways of releasing anger, and it works very well. All I’m trying to do it help you.
Sincerely, Alanna
F. Dear Friend,
You are one of my best friends ever, and you have been ever since we were little, and I’m so thankful that I have such a good friend as you. Lately, a few things have been stressing me out, and when kids at school act immature, it really starts to get to me. I would like to apologize for my actions lately. Along with apologizing to you, I would also like to thank you, for being one of the only people who understands me. When I am mean (I don’t mean to be) you’re always there right by me, trying to figure out ways to help me. You also always find a way to make me smile even after I was rude to you. Again, I apologize for the way I was acting. When to much is happening at once I tend to go on overload. Even though, that is no excuse to take your anger out on someone who cares.
Sincerely, Alanna
Alanna Nagi
6th hour
a. Some acts of social agression i have seen i my school is people making fun of others. Im not going to lie i make fun of people a lot.
d. Some ways people try to show dominace over others is by getting into fight. who ever wins a fight they are automaticaly better at life then the other person. People try to show dominace over me daily but it doesn't work(ALEX MARTIN),
g. There are some alternitives to social agression. I would go hit a punching bag or a pillow. I would also do something that relax's me. There is no way to adress social aggresion. Once a kid oes and snitches then they will be made fun of more.
Zack ruffin
a. There are a lot of acts of social aggression in our school. One type would have to be bullying. I see bullying going on a lot in the school and it is usually directed toward the younger or smaller kids. I also see a lot of the smaller kids that think that they are tough shit and they own the school. Another type would be rumors. I hear a lot of rumors going around and they are always bad rumors. They are directed to damage someones self esteem or ruin relationships with friends.
f. Dear Mom and Dad
I am really sorry for letting my anger out on you all the time. I know it makes you feel bad when I do it and in the end it makes me feel bad too. I dont know why I do it but it just seems that you are the best person to talk to about stuff. Im sorry for all the times I have done this to you and I hope you know that.
Love, Troy
d. People do try and esthablish dominance and authority over you everyday. One major way they try and do this is by trying to fight someone. People think that when they think they can win a fight with somebody they will be the collest person in school. Another way is from all the "hot shots" trying to tell you what to do. they think that they know and everything and the younger people should do everything.
Troy Wojichowski 5th hr
The acts of social agression that I have seen at LHS is the rolling of the eyes. I also there is alot of gossip going on too. I am guilty of the gossip, I am also guilty of spreading rumors.
Dear Katelyn,
I am so sorry that when ever I get mad at someone else. I know that it is not nice to take my anger out at you. I always feel really bad. I know that you deserve better then that. I will work on this. I need to find a new way to control my anger. I am truly sorry. I hope that you can't stay mad at me. Love always your cousin. Alexa
People try to establish athourity by telling me when I can talk to my boyfriend. This pisses me off. My parents still treat me like a child. I am now 16 and I need to be treated like an adult. All of my friends are treated like an aadult. It just buggs me, i keep telling them that I am not a little kid any more. Hopefully soon they will start to treat me like an adult.
G) Their are alternatives to social aggression. A good one instead of bullying or making facial expressions or anyhting in betwee, is to confront the person and state what your issue is. Their is no need to yell or bitch, just talk calmly. To respond, the other must be willing to cooperate and submit to acting in a social aggressive mannar.
D) No one has ever tried to be dominant over me, or at least I cant think of a time. Although, I do see it often in school. Its in the rumors, the lunchroom, and the hallways. Peple will make fun of someone or talk shit about them.
E) Dear ryan, I think its unfair and cruel to punish me with harsh remarks that undermine my self esteem. Im sorry your girl friend broke up with you, but its not my fault. Every word out of your mouth is how bad you have it and how pissed off you always are. Im sick of being your punching bag. I suggest you go run or something to let off some steam, or you can even talk to me, only if its a non violent mannar that involves talking in a calm voice, being frank and listing to what I have to say.
deets
A. some acts of social aggression i've seen at schoolare name calling, when just sometimes you think you are not hurting someone feelings you acually do hurt thier and sometimes a lot. There is a lot of rumors that go around school it is something you have to get adjusted to, some are not too bad or damaging, but others can change someones high school expericence.
D.People try to take dominance over me in a few ways but most of the time i dont take it. Being in sports is when it happens the most being a in the bottom half of the school really makes a differnece you do all the little things like carry the water or what ever it is. I understanf this but sometimes its just crazy and unfair thats when i say something.
G. A alternative to social aggression can be alot of differnt things it all dependets on the person. For me i am very angry i like to go for a run where its you and the run, play some music and you escape and are in your own world. Yes you can respond to social agression without being aggressive, by not taking back for revenge and talking it out with someone. Sometimes just letting out your anger and forgeting about what was done is the best way to go.
Shaun Gerber
A. Social agression takes place everywhere. One example would be rumors. Rumors are spread about everyone whether its good or bad. Another example would be popularity. So many people compete and try so hard to be popular. This leads to people just being flat out fake. I dont understand why people just cant be who they really are.
D. My parents attempt to establish authority over me, which they do. I think they have authority up to a certain degree. As we get older, the authority should become less and less. As we become young adults, we need more room, and we need to start making more decisions for ourselves.
G. If someone has social aggression, they hould take a few deep breathes and try to collect themself. Instead of taking it out on someone innocent, they should stop themself and ask themself if what they are going to say is appropriate. People should talk things over calmy, not harshly, or have any yelling.
amy urbanik
5th hour
A. Some acts of social aggression at school that I have seen would be fighting and the "uperclassmen" think there hot shit. Also,I hear rumors that go around that hurt people.
B. I think that something in school or community can directly cause social aggression. Maybe something bad happens at school on int the community to you, you could end up blaming that on a friend. Its not fair to that friend, but you still might do it. Also, in order to accomplish something, you might end up manipulating someone to get that one thing done. It is a real jerk move, but again, it still happens.
C. Some causes of social aggression in my life could be because someone is jealous of someone else and they gossip or spread rumors about someone. Another cause of social aggression is that people might judge others before they even know them and bully them etc. And a 3rd cause could be because of a rumor, someone might hear that another person said something when in reality it was just a lie.
Alex Martin
A)Some social aggression that I have seen is people walking through the halls yelling mean things to other students.
C) Some causes of social aggression in my life could be because someone is jealous of someone else and they gossip or spread rumors about someone. Or people yelling stuff at me in the halls. Another cause of social aggression is that people might judge others before they even know them and bully them. A rumor spread about someone, someone else might hear that another person said something when in reality it was just a lie.
F) Dear Sissy and boyfriend,
I'm sorry i always take my anger out on you guys. I only do that because i feel like i have nothing else to turn to when i mad. Hailey i take it out on you by hitting you. I know its not fair to you and im sorry. Pat i take it out on you by just starting stupid fights with you for no reason because I had a bad day. I just want you guys to know that im sorry for doing that. I never mean to hurt you. (:
5th
A. The major acts of social aggression that I have seen in my school and community are gossip, bullying, and exclusion. Gossip is an ongoing trend that is very manipulative and many people tend to believe the gossip they hear. I think gossip is created to make people feel better for themselves, and just to have something to talk about. Bullying is also another act of social aggression I see constantly. I think people bully others to feel a superiority over others, to make themselves feel more important, but truly it is just diminishing the persons character.
D. The most common way I see people try to establish dominance over me is age. I hate when people treat me differently just because I might be younger. Truth is, usually I'm never that much younger than the person. They want to feel dominance over me to feel like there in charge or in power. Another way people try to establish dominance over me is by their "title". Someone will have better grades or will be better at something than I am, and will try to establish dominance that way.
F. Many times I have taken my anger out on my family when I am in a bad mood, or had a bad day at school. If I were to write a letter to them, it would go something like this...
To my family,
I would like to apologize for acting the way I did towards you. It was uncalled for, and you did not deserve it. I had a really bad day, and I took my anger out in the wrong manner. I was having a bad day, so I felt like someone else should too. This was very wrong and I am sorry. I hope you will be able to forgive me.
Cherie Stoll
John Kent
5th Hour
Bullying is one the social aggressions that seems most apparent in school. It is more verbal, but is equally as abusive as punching someone.
People try to establish authority and control by put downs and sarcasm. If they don’t like you they will just keep at it. As what you think it doesn’t matter what they say.
An alternative to social aggression is to talk to an authority figure to get it to stop. The cause of social aggression could be many factors. You would have examine each case and determine how to address each situation. I think that school should set some conflict resolution program for the constant abusers. For the cases that aren’t so severe, the school could have a mediation program where students can resolve their differences. If they can’t resolve them without damaging the self esteem of the other person then it needs to get bumped up to the conflict resolution program. This way it teaches kids to deal with their problems without damaging each other in the process.
A. Social aggression happens everyday in the school and community environment. Rumors and gossip are spread throughout the school environment very fast and often. These stories are twisted and slightly changed and can hurt peoples feelings very badly.
D. Everyday elders show dominance over me in school. For example a girl was drinking coffee in first hour and the teacher took it from her but the teacher always drinks coffee in that class. Most of us underclassmen show respect for older class men in the hallways and around the school.
G. Some alternatives to social aggression are working out,It reliefs stress and relaxes you. Ways to address social aggression include getting all the information from the source before spreading nonsense. If you know the rumor will ruin the persons self esteem then dont spread it.
Taylor Wattles
Megan Fraser
5th hour
A. I have seen a lot of social aggression at school. People are really mean, especially girls. They talk crap behind people's backs, spread rumors, give dirty looks, and exclude people. Another think I see a lot of more from the boys is putting down other races or genders and all the dirty discriminating jokes. People bully each other too.
D. In my everyday life, my parents have dominance and authority over me. They sometimes like to take it really far though and ground me for stuff because they can. My mom makes me take the dog out when she's not doing anything. My brother tries to have dominance over me because he's taller than me so he thinks he can tell me what to do. Some people in my interior design class also think that they're better and tell me what to do. It doesn't work out too well though because they're freshmen and I don't listen.
G. Alternatives to social aggression are looking at people in a different way. If you stop being prejudice and not fair then you could have a better attitude towards people. You can address people in a positive constructive way and just say what you feel. If you don't try to be mean about it and consider their feelings then everything should be fine.
a). of course i have seen everyone, correction, almost everyone, be angered at someone, at the points where they go far enough to destroy others self-estem. i see it all the time. the biggest thing to me though, is the acts of aggression, where it could be avoided by saying a couple of words. one of my friends, who shalln't be named, knows this freshman girl, who really bugs him, to the point where she scares him. i dont have enough commitment to say just tell her "you need to simmer down, your really freaking me out". in the end, i know he will make the choice, and tell her that, but he is smart enough to make that conclusion on his own.
B). in acts of aggression i have had before, or better put, when others have acted against me, a lot of the time, i have had the school pseudo-solve the problem. what it comes down to, is the person will still pick on you, till you show them that it can not continue, now i do not mean acts of violence, but at times, i have wanted to just square punch people in the face cause they wouldn't stop being such an arrogant asshole. (haven't we all wanted to punch them?) Anyways, to solve the problem, i feel that you need to show dominance in the situation, because having people pick on you, is never a good thing, and thank good it does not happen as much as it had.
C). some cause's of my problems would definitively be my parents, not all the time, but some of the time. like every teenager. but some of the bigger problems i have had, were with some immature students. now, i know i have acted immature before, and sometimes i do it purposefully to bug the person in front of me 6th hour, but the thing that i above others with it most of the time, is that, i am aware of when i am being the persona, wether its quiet-pay-attention, or wether i am Talk-about-bullshit-so-themasterofblankets-gets-mad-at-me. i know its purposeful, and it probably does not help the situation, but why try fixing a situation that wont get fixed? it happens. there are few ever that i have come across, but, again, i am aware of when to give up on those types of things.
the final thing that angers me, is when people don't know the references i am talking about, and then it makes the whole conversation pointless, and makes me sound like an idiot. now i do not think these may relate to of mice and men, oither than people not understanding you,but thats whats fun about meeting new people, you get to put a new mask on every day.
Andrew Colin Visger
andrewcolinvisger@me.com
Andrew Colin Visger
A. Throughout school and and in my community i have noticed many acts of social aggresion. Things such as bullying like knocking a kids books down, pushing your friend into them, calling them names or even spreading rumors. In my community i personally have also sighted this between friends and others. Things such as seeing someone and laughing makes me think that person is laughing at them because of something about that person or other things like doing something to that person outside of school.
C. Three causes of social aggresion could have to do with sports, school and the community it self. for instance, in sports you may have enough talent to make a certain team but may not have the right amount to be the superstar or even play. This gets downplayed and used to make fun of the personby others. In school, you may not recieve good grades as an example and people think of you as a screw off or asa person who just does not care or want to succeed. Lastly, the community may have to do with rumors or mistakes made in the past which also lead up to the act on social aggresion by others.
D. There are many ways people try to establish dominace over me. One may be by finding a weekness i may carry and shoot at that to try to destroy me mentaly. Others might take it to far and use it on me phisically.
conman
A. In our school, acts of social aggression occur daily. I see and hear about so much drama every day that it seems like commonplace. "Did you hear what they did?!" "I am so mad at her, she is such a backstabber!" I hear comments like these all the time, and generally, the things said about someone get back to that person, and they can be deeply hurt. I know what it feels like to be talked about behind my back, and it is not fun. Most of the things said about me were out of anger and were not true, but it still hurt to know that people I considered my "friends" would say nasty things about me.
D. Some people feel like they have to be dominant or authoritative over everyone else. Some people I know try to act strong and tell me all the reasons why I am weaker than them. Just being strong muscularly does not neccessarily mean you are strong willed, have a strong heart, and many other traits. Also, I put a lot of effort into my school work and grades. When I do better than the entire class or the same, nodoby says anything to me generally. The funny thing is that when I get a lower grade then others, some people feel the need to remind me of it for a month or so to prove a point that one grade makes them more superior and dominant than me. People like this need to realize that you do not need to be better than every one else, you just have to be your best.
E. Dear person who got mad at me,
I know that you had some problems with your relationship and that happens- it's high school. When you go around saying nasty things about me that are not true at all and think that I'm not going to hear any of it, I do. Although you might just think that taking your anger out on somebody and thinking that they will never hear it is ok, it is not, because the stuff you make up to relieve your anger hurts the person it is being said about. If you feel like I am the root of the problem, I would rather you talk directly to me and clear everything up in the first place rather than having me hear about it from others. If I am not the real root of your anger, then maybe you should take some time to figure out what really is and confront it. Talk to him about it, talk to me about it, or talk to whoever else might be angering you. Broken relationships are hard, and I know that, so if you ever want to talk, say it to my face, not behind my back.
~Kaleigh
Kaleigh Swanson
5th hour
A.) In my school ive seen bullying. Bullying is one of the worst things because it really hurts people. Everyone gossips, and gossip is probably one of the biggest things in our community. Lastly i have seen people get into fight and i guess hurt eachother.
C.) Three major causes of social aggression are jealousy, competition, and insecurity. People can get jealous over grades or sports and it can cause people to get really angry and mean. Mostly in sports their is competition and competition is good but sometimes it can go way too far. And lastly people can be insecure with how their life is and this causes people to make others feel insecure.
D.) People try to attempt to establish dominance by makeing you feel worse about yourself. People want to have a sense of control of someone else. Also by spreading rumors people can attempt to have some sort of dominance over you. It makes you feel like crap when you hear people saying bad things about you.
A.Acts of social aggression I have seen at school is people calling each other names. For no reason it seems like people feel the need to put others down.B. I think that something in school or community can directly cause social aggression. Maybe something bad happens at school on int the community to you, you could end up blaming that on a friend. Its not fair to that friend, but you still might do it. Also, in order to accomplish something, you might end up manipulating someone to get that one thing done. It is a real jerk move, but again, it still happens.C. Some causes of social aggression in my life could be because someone is jealous of someone else and they gossip or spread rumors about someone. Another cause of social aggression is that people might judge others before they even know them and bully them etc. And a 3rd cause could be because of a rumor, someone might hear that another person said something when in reality it was just a lie.
Social aggression I'd seen in this school was that they were talking on the back of someone else; and, of course, it was not a complimentary comment. Even after someone starts making gossips of someone else, as long as others don't agree and not follow it, there would be no such severe damage to one's fame or image. But the thing is the feeling of uneasiness. When a influential person makes a statement, whether it's true or not, it gets to be said as if it's being believed, since people are afraid of being left out of the group. And in the case of "Of mice and men", the unstability of economy strongly impacted the atmosphere, which was threat to migrant workers.
The way some teachers use in order to keep their students quiet and do their work is "threatening" them using their grade, suspension, or rigorous homeworks. Samely, outside the school they also try to use the things they have that I need in order to control me.
a. What acts of social aggression have you seen in your school and community?
In school some social aggression that i have seen is, of eyes, spreading of rumors, bullying, and manipulation of friendships and also in relationships.
e. Has anyone ever taken out their anger with something else out on you? Write a letter to someone who has done this to you. Explain how his or her actions made you feel. Suggest some other ways this person might deal with his or her anger.
This person knows who they are,
I feel like everytime you go behind my back and lie to me it hurts me in so many ways. I feel like thats all you do. Then when i confront you about it you bitch at me and tell at me and get all pissed off at me and think its okay to just lie to me yell at me and just keep hiding things from me. Then i dont tell you something because i try to show you how it feels to be done to you and to treat me even more like shit yell at me somemore and tell me your done with me that you hate and want nothing to do with me. Thats not fair to me. It brings me down i get depressed and get into fights with my familey because the way you treat me. Same goes with if you got into a fight with you family or a friend or because you heard something and mad you mad. you take it out on me and kinda put the blame on me and its like you punish me for what happend andits not fair. you treat me like some peace of shit that you can just push around and yell at me and hid things from me and you think its perfectly okay to do it. Its not fair. Im done now i cant deal with you treating me like shit lying to me 24-7 and hidding things behind my back and think its perfectly okay. Im sorry but im done.
g. What are some alternatives to social aggression? Are there ways to address and respond to the causes of social aggression without attempting to damage someone else’s self-esteem or social status?
Some alternatives to social aggression would be,
1. not to lie just tell the truth because by not telling the truth is always worse then just tell the truth in the first place.
2. Just be nice no matter whats going on in your life
3. Get some kind of help if it would be better for you
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